Posted by 10derHeart on May 10, 2005, at 16:31:10
In reply to Re: AdaGrace (triggerish and very long) » sunny10, posted by AdaGrace on May 9, 2005, at 9:50:54
Adagrace,
Boy did this sharply bring back an old memory. More than 17 years ago, my then soon-to-be-ex. accused me of that as well. I think he may have gone one better than yours on the lesbian issue. He didn't need to hear me say "I love you," or anything like that. One day, because in that week I'd worked about 1 hour overtime on two different days, he informed me he knew I was "messing around" with another woman and doing it at work. When I asked why on earth he thought that, and out of curiosity, which woman, he said, "oh, any one of those *itches you work with. It's obvious what's going on, there aren't any men working late, are there?!"
I was in the military at the time. Eveyone in my office just happened to be female for a short while. He knew that.
What I probably said to him, went something like this: "Yes, of course, dear, instead of finishing up the work we swore to do, at taxpayers expense, to help defend our country, we are all having hot sex right there on the desks, for one hour, twice a week now, just before we all go home to our kids and husbands."
He was the most insecure man I have ever - and maybe will ever - meet.
This is a man who starting choking me one time, too. Because he got fired that day (which I didn't know yet) Just as I started to see stars a bit (and managed to get away), he was muttering, "I should choke you becasueI don't have a job any more." Impeccable logic, eh?
Sorry, that opened an old door....
I get that stuff, Ada, really I do. It is hellish. (can I use that word?) Hang in there. Try to take care of yourself. I don't know what else to say right now. I will try to follow your threads more and post...if I'm able.
(Yours and sunny's have been surprisingly hard for me. But I can try harder. I want to help if I can.)
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