Posted by alesta on May 1, 2005, at 14:16:31
In reply to Re: ReFeeling sexual, Me too (whine) » alesta, posted by Susan47 on May 1, 2005, at 13:08:54
> The man who hit on you was probably fairly comfortable with women and used to seeing us without the goop. I love the goop. Sometimes when I'm feeling really good I put lots on, because it matches my mood. Sometimes less, I like that about being a woman, I can experiment a bit with different looks. A bit, because I'm still always me, no plastic surgery... yet. Aaah. Life has many wonderful options. Anyway did you respond to the hit?
LOL.."the hit"..:) no, i didn't respond..it's funny. i always attract the 'casinova' type..you know, the smooth talker, really extraverted suave type..and i do not want that type anymore, lol. we ain't bloody compatible..but that's not the reason i didn't respond..i didn't respond b/c i felt unattractive without the makeup..even though he was hitting on me. i just was not expecting it ya know..
<Because I'm finding the less afraid I am of men, the more open they are too. It's nice. I used to be so afraid of men. Intimidated by them.
yeah..i'm just not open to men right now. i'm attracted to em, but i don't want one just yet..i just broke up with one..
> I'm glad you're feeling okay about being alone. Mostly I'm okay with it, but when I'm sexual and/or emotional it's horrible. Those are the days I need a male T. I mean, really. I'm going to search out another male therapist. Because I need one. Badly. As soon as I've done my EMDR with this female, I'm going to make an appointment this week. Get these rapes taken off me. They've been part of me for too long. And some of the stuff that goes with being a woman, and the reproductive aspect of our bodies which can be so devastating. Wonderful too, but still. Everything I've been through has added shadows to my soul. I need to be rid of them.
i don't know if this will help you or not, but focusing on meeting your needs, making yourself happy, without a man is key to dealing with those 'gotta have a man' feelings..i'm not sure if that's what you were saying, but if it is, you might be a love addict. and focusing on YOU and your needs instead of HIM and his needs and him bringing you your needs will help. there's a site somewhere on the internet i can look up if you want me to..if what i'm saying resonates with you..
<Thanks, Alesta, for being here for me too. I notice you were drinking the other night. How'd you feel the next day BTW? I used to get the hangover you-know-what's. I never drink excessively anymore, it's too depressing. :-)
oh, no problemo! thank YOU!:-) yeah. that was a once-in-a-blue-moon thing. i didn't even drink on new year's last year.
aim ;)
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