Posted by Tamar on April 18, 2005, at 5:12:06
In reply to Re: Sex again. Sigh. » Tamar, posted by Susan47 on April 17, 2005, at 13:18:47
Hi Susan,
Yeah, I know what you mean. And I’ve read that it’s common for people who’ve had traumatic experiences to have problems sexually with their partners, but no problem with strangers. I don’t know if that applies to you, but I think it makes sense in general. There’s something about the familiarity of sexual contact that feels uncomfortable and distressing, whereas unfamiliarity is more likely to be free of unpleasant associations.
However, I’m married; I want to be a sexually fulfilled woman, and I want my husband to be part of that. It’s a constant struggle for me. But I tend to think that half the problem with finding men attractive is about my attitude to myself. I need to feel I deserve it. At the moment I feel as if I owe it to myself to find sexual pleasure with my husband, so it’s worth it to me to keep trying.
Tamar
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