Posted by University on February 5, 2005, at 14:49:37
In reply to To bad to stay, too good to leave » university, posted by alexandra_k on January 26, 2005, at 1:22:35
Hi Alex (may I call you that?)
Yes--peace. I'm sorry--to everyone--if my posts read abrasively. :(
And yes, your situation is similar to mine, but I'm hoping I don't choose--deliberately or passively--1a. And it's just the choice I'd usually end up in because I wouldn't really have to make a choice. I'd feel as if I wasn't hurting my boyfriend, I wasn't losing him, I wasn't responsible for ending the relationship, etc. etc. Then I'd just "become" depressed, and that alone would probably result in losing him, which would, of course, exacerbate the depression...
I do feel like I'm getting my bearings about it, and working up the chutzpah to talk. And I HAVE tried to talk about it with him in the past--but it always stalemated...
And even if being "in love" is an illusion, it's clear to me that, in any case, I don't feel the deep, sexual, "romatic" feelings of love that he does for me. That alone is reason enough for me to end it--if for only his sake! But for mine, too. As you know, it hurts to be on "our" side of this type of relationship problem, too. I know it must suck to be on the other end, but I'm having no picnic either :(
Thanks again for your posts :)
JM
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