Posted by sunny10 on January 26, 2005, at 9:41:34
In reply to Re: stuck between 2 different people, posted by shellybelle911 on January 26, 2005, at 3:18:01
being here helps.
I can't speak for ShortE, but I wrote what I did because I WAS that person you described before. I tried to keep everyone else happy and I can say without a doubt that I didn't get anything out of therapy while I was trying to "work on having a better relationship"! I had to figure ME out because part of that relationship was me, and the only person in any relationship that I can ever change is me.
And I'm not going to tell you that I'm finished, either. I understand now WHY I have "sabotagued" myself with thinking patterns that I learned in childhood (and how they have determined my "reactions" within relationships since childhood), but am still trying to learn how to "act" with my logic and not "react" with my "childhood feelings"....
AND, I've also learned that even if I figure it out my way, it may not help YOU. We are all so very different, yet so very much the same!
Amazing beings we humans are...
Good luck with your start, keep us posted and let us know if we can offer help!
-sunny10
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