Posted by AdaGrace on December 23, 2004, at 7:52:56
In reply to walking the walk, posted by retrojen on December 23, 2004, at 0:01:03
I too have an overbearing father. Gets his way always. For years we feared and loathed him. Now we tollerate him because Mom is gone now and he "needs" us for his basic needs. I guess you could say I left one hell for another because I wanted out so badly. People do not change it seems and often times only get worse. Now my father is consuming our lives with his "needs" and corrupting marriages as well. "Nursing Home" you say? No, not an option when one of us would only suffer more and the rest would live with the tremendous guilt of the burdon we layed on her. I don't know what to tell you, I simply endure, waiting for the day that life gets easier. Guess my outlook on it is hey, he was 44 when I was born, how much longer can it take? I know that sounds harsh, but this man has made many lives miserable including my dear departed Mother and she was a pure true sole who was crushed beneath his feet time and time again. So we allow his tantrums, we ignore his cruel treatment of our children, and we wait hand and foot on him to try to make him comfortable. Simple peace is our reward, but we often times don't achieve that after our hard efforts. Hand in there.......that's what I'm doing.
AdaGrace
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