Posted by alexandra_k on December 7, 2004, at 16:54:00
In reply to Re: dating ads, posted by lostforwards on December 7, 2004, at 11:09:38
>If your kid is sick, you SHOULD have health insurance.
Well sure, but should implies can and if you cannot afford it then it is hopeless to tell a person in that situation that they should have had the health insurance and so the situation (dilemma) is one of their own making.
>The issue is unrelated. Health care should be free.
Well, to be contrary I think that the issue is actually very pertinant. Health care should indeed be free, but the fact is that it is not in many parts of the world. So it is perfectly possible that there could be a single mother in the US who could not afford health insurance and whose kid needs an expensive operation. In that case it may be that she turns to porn or prostitution because of it.
>Bottom line IMHO: Making money by selling your sex isn't wrong.
Oh, I fully agree. I have no problem at all with people deciding to pose or work as prostitutes. It is the people who pay for it and support it that sickens me.
And the reason why? Some women seem to be okay with doing this and little harm is done to them. IMHO I wish I was like that - I would be far better off financially if I could bring myself to work as a prostitute. But I am not. I do imagine, however, that there could be things that could happen in the course of my life which might actually drive me to do this DESPITE that it would f me up big time.
Thats all that I am getting at really. How many prostitutes / porn workers need years of therapy to try to undo a lot of the harm that they felt in being treated as an object whose own desires and preferences were completely disregarded for x amount of dollars?
How many people working as porn stars / prostitutes do so to support their drug habits? How many were abused as children? How many have BPD? How many are damaged already and consider that while it is hurtful they do not deserve any better.
Once again: I am not saying all are like that. I will say some, but I think that most would be even more accurate.
I don't have a problem with nudity.
There are nudist colonies, I wonder whether they do view porn. I would guess that viewing naked pictures probably isn't so appealing anymore. But viewing explicit sex acts and prostitution would probably still continue IMO.I think appreciation of form (in viewing naked peoples) is different from using it as a munsteraid. Whether something counts as pornography or not (IMO) isn't so much a function of anything intrinsic to the work of art. Rather it is a function of what purpose its creation was intended to serve. And then what function people use that work for.
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