Posted by lostforwards on December 7, 2004, at 17:23:54
In reply to more ranting :-) » lostforwards, posted by alexandra_k on December 7, 2004, at 16:54:00
Oh yeah, I think real flesh and blood beats static images or even sequences of images. I mean, I think it's pretty hard to objectify someone you meat at a brothel ( let's not complicate matters with talk of STDs ).
I think the extensive use of the internet is leading to objectification of people. I think those online dating sites promote a frivolous attitude towards relationships. In fact I think it's comodification of human beings.
Pay to get into the site, and then pick and choose. Just like you're in a grocery store. I think that this is very similar to what happens with porn.
If these mediums didn't exist you would have less pick-and-choose and you would have more real interaction with real human beings. The fact that it's so easy to skip from one person to another is just like how it's so easy to view one porn pic or another.
However, I do think there's a happy medium. Pardon the pun.
When I was growing up, when the hormones kicked in I started to wonder what the other part of my race looked like, if you know what I mean. Me and my friends discovered naked pictures of girls in the woods( I grew up in a small town in nf, it was very easy to find "the woods" ). It was the most amazing experience. We used to actually collect the stuff.
However, there's no way in hell pictures can replace the real thing. On the other hand I don't think the intictual tendancy to find another person attractive is a bad thing and I don't think it was a bad for us to view those pictures. I think it was perfectly natural. I believe the same applies to pictures of people doing sexual things.
It's only a problem if you stop realizing that real human beings exist around you and it becomes an addiction.
I agree with everything you said about some people getting used and in general very psychologically ill as a result of being forced into jobs in the "sex industry?".
=> What if the only porn available was homemade and it wasn't made for money, whether it be hard or soft?
Finally: I think it's possible to love someone without ever knowing them. I also think it's possible to love someone and find them attractive without ever knowing them.
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