Posted by sunny10 on November 9, 2004, at 14:06:04
In reply to Re: Where is The One?, posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 13:50:59
Susan,
It sounds to me that all you need is to find a grown up that you can moan and groan WITH. I think that's the "work" that relationship take.
You have to be willing to moan and groan about how NOT perfect love can be, together! A kindred soul that feels the same about the whole thing is what The One is all about.
The One is not Prince Charming on a white horse, covering you with garments and diamonds! The One is the one you share LIFE with. And LIFE isn't all roses- but it's all you HAVE to share.
I think THAT's the point. Dinah is right, any kindred spirit is The One. And AdaGrace is also right, the one you're with is The One. Because whomever you're with at any given moment is The One you share your life with. This very moment you are with "The One"- the babble family. You are sharing your life with us. For the Amorous part of yourself, you chose one person (sayeth the Bible/Torah, whatever- the primate in you says "I'll take whatever I want") that you are physically attracted to to be The One you are sharing life with.
And it's ok, too, if you just don't feel like sharing right now! I refused to "share" for two years to give myself a break and screw my head on straight(er). Then my hormones jumped up and said "HI" when I laid eyes on my now SO...
We have our issues- almost every week! But then the rest of the week, we "share".
Ok, ok, sermon over, time for sunny10 to shut the H**LL up, no need to tell me....
-mmmmuuunnmmppfff (lips are sealed, signing off)
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