Posted by sunny10 on November 15, 2004, at 13:22:27
In reply to Re: It's because I don't love the one I am with » Susan47, posted by AdaGrace on November 14, 2004, at 22:19:06
So, we're back to that. AdaGrace, making love can be all things. From everything that you have said, sex is mechanical with hubby. And hubby doesn't know/doesn't care; just wants to get his rocks off. Did I read through the lines correctly?
You mention not wanting to teach him how to please you/how to turn sex into making love. That seems dirty to you, do I infer correctly?
Maybe the key is to ask your T to help YOU understand that sex is not dirty and that it's ok to advocate for yourself and THEN teach your hubby how differently it feel to make love rather than have sex.
After all, if his attitude is "I don't care HOW we do it, as long as we do it", show him how YOU want to do it. You might want to check into the Kama Sutra- the pictures will excite him into giving the idea a try, but the actual "practices" involve a lot of tantra. And tantra is all about being INVOLVED IN THE LOVEMAKING PROCESS, which is what you two can practice. Before long it will no longer be practice- you'll be making love.
Just a thought- I just can't get mine to stay awake as much as I'd like- it's advice, take it or leave. When I get depressed, I can't see options. If that is where you are, emotionally, I just thought I'd offer one that you may not have seen.
What do you think?
-sunny10
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