Posted by JenStar on November 6, 2004, at 14:45:42
In reply to I'm physically shutting out my husband, posted by saw on November 5, 2004, at 0:38:18
hi Sabrina,
don't be sad about your weight! YOu're a lovely person and your husband loves you for YOU.I also often worry about the fact that I'm not a skinny Brittany Spears / Kate Moss / Jessica Simpson /etc. clone (ha) and hate the fact that I'm fatter than I want to be. But my husband says that I'm beautiful and that he loves me the way I am, and I think he really does mean it.
When I think about the opposite, I can see how it's true: I really love HIM and wouldn't want any other despite the fact that he had a belly, love handles, less-than-6-pack-abs, etc. I still love him and need him and would never trade him for one of those beefcake model guys, even if they came knocking on my door with sheafs of roses and chocolates and songs.
You're possibly projecting your own feelings of self-dissatisfaction onto your husband (I think all of us normal women do this at least sometimes!), which isn't fair and isn't necessary -- he DOES love you and DOES think you're pretty. YOU may not, but HE does. :)
And I'm sure he still loves having sex with you, which is more about the motion & the feeling and all that, and not so much about how many inches circumference your tummy is. If you're gifted in bed, you can use those gifts in very nice ways regardless of whether you weigh 150 or 350!
Anyway, take comfort, if you can, in the fact that lots of us women out here are hanging onto at least a few extra lbs that we don't want...and our hubbies still love us...just like yours loves you. :)
take care!
JenStar
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