Posted by sunny10 on November 5, 2004, at 10:41:19
In reply to Re: I'm physically shutting out my husband, posted by ron1953 on November 5, 2004, at 8:31:49
My suggestion would be to ask him to tell you what he finds to be the most attractive things about you.
First, most of them will probably have nothing to do with your looks.
Second, if they do have to do with your looks, he will probably tell you how much happier he is to be able to actually grab a handful of you.I took my own advice above when I gained 16 pounds in the last four months ! (Thanks, Efexxor XR- NOT) I was hiding in my nightgown, burrowing under the covers, too, until my hormones started rearing their heads and I realized that I had to address this.
Of course, I am not strong- I was crying and wailing into his chest when I told him I was "so ugly now"-- it was hard. But I was so relieved when he just laughed and asked me was I kidding, and did I want proof that I wasn't ugly???!!!
I still mention my fat butt in a negative manner and he just grabs it and makes little yummy growling sounds.
(Actually, print out my story and see what your husband does, if you want ! Wink, wink, nudge, nudge...They always rise to competition; he'll want to "better" my SO !)
-sunny10
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