Posted by biohazard2 on October 29, 2004, at 13:28:48
In reply to Re: my wife just left me..... » dazedandconfused, posted by stresser on October 27, 2004, at 20:13:36
thank you stressor and sunny10,
you words of encouragement meant a lot to me. also, too, at home i have a good support group with family and friends to help me. the best is my longtime friend of 16 years. he has been taking me out to do things, so i just don't go to bed at 7:30 and wallow in self-pity and depression.
looking back i just think she's just tired of me, even though i told her upfront that i was 'crazy' before we even started dating.
for the past 7 months we never did anything, just sit around the house reading a book, watching tv or working on the computer. i would tell her that we needed to spend more time together doing things instead being isolated. i would demand (in a playful way of course) time together just laying in bed and talking.
and she would get up and leave after 10 minutes saying she didn't feel like laying in bed, or sitting on front porch.the more i think about it the angrier i get, i really tried and i still want this marriage to work. i just think she doesn't want to try to make it work. she said she doesn't want to go to therapy because i will blame it on being bipolar or some stuff and justify everything.
her sister in law, whom is a good friend told me that i might have smothered her with too much love and affection. that she is not used to a lot of responsiblity, and now she has to deal with me, an emotionally needy wingnut.
but this is all just speculation, because i haven't talked to her in a few days (and it has been killing me). so i really do not now what's going on in her head. when i did talk to her on the phone a few days ago i pressed her to talk about what was wrong with our relationship to bring this on and she said she was getting a headache and had to go.
and about 3 months ago, she had wanted to go on a vacation without me. she told me up front it would make me angry and it did. she said it was to get away from me for a while. so i guess all the hints are there, she wants out. she feels now that i am mentally stable enough to leave without me harming myself.
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