Posted by Racer on October 21, 2004, at 19:51:13
In reply to I Don't Like Him, posted by AdaGrace on October 19, 2004, at 11:32:03
Disclaimer: I haven't checked this board for a while, so I don't know all the backstory here. What's more, I am not reading well right now, so I haven't read all the other responses to this, either. This is just my response to reading your initial post, only.
If you feel this way about your husband, why did you marry him in the first place?
Now that I've asked that, I'll follow up with a little bit of my own story, just so that it doesn't sound so harsh.
By last summer, I felt pretty much the same way about my husband. I knew that I had moved in with him for a reason, and I knew that I had wanted to marry him for a reason, and I thought that I had even married him for a reason -- but I could not for the life of me think of what any of those reasons could have been. I thought I'd made the biggest mistake of my entire life of mistakes.
Guess what? I know the answers now: I married him because I was in love with him. Guess what else? I am in love with him now. I can remember why I was so upset with him, and why I was so angry with him, but we've worked most of that out now. We're still working on other parts, but we've come a long way towards working it ALL out.
What I'm trying to say is that if you married him for a reason, it may be time to try to remember that reason, and decide whether it's worth trying to salvage the relationship -- soggy kisses and all.
poster:Racer
thread:404712
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/relate/20041015/msgs/405644.html