Posted by Miss Honeychurch on October 19, 2004, at 15:10:54
In reply to Re: I Don't Like Him » Miss Honeychurch, posted by AdaGrace on October 19, 2004, at 14:28:05
Ada,
You are only human. We all make mistakes. And we all make stupid mistakes when we are young. ONe thing I have learned in my therapy is not to catastophize things so much. Your children are a result of this marriage and I'm sure you love them to death. If you hadn't married this man, your children would not exist. And as tempting as it is, you are doing yourself a disservice by beating yourself up. If your daughter were in the same shoes, would you talk to her the way you are talking to yourself??
Also, perhaps having a plan on how to better your life would help you with thinking that this was the worst mistake in your life. We all have made horrible mistakes. What matters is what we DO with them.
I know you want to stay in your marriage for the children, but it sounds as if this may indeed not be possible. Is it all possible for you to consider leaving your husband and starting over?
Perhaps your husband is just as unhappy as you and would welcome a separation. What do you think?
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