Posted by just plain jane on October 13, 2004, at 20:24:47
In reply to Re: Sorry, posted by AdaGrace on October 13, 2004, at 12:49:00
In my life I have felt as you describe. And repeated it yet again. And again.
Having your therapist tell you to work on yourself and not think about the men seems to be such a joke, doesn't it? But...
Through several years of physical pain I learned that I could function to my physical capacity anyway. I could accomplish things despite the pain, as long as I would not be Causing Further Harm To Myself.
When I realized I could do that, I realized the practice would also apply to the emotional wounds I had inflicted on myself by having those relationships.
Through incessant practice and exercise of my stubbornness (some call it willpower - lol) I have found that I can, indeed, work on my needs, my reconstruction, my growth. In spite of the pain I endure, I must take care of myself. For if I do not have me, me cannot enjoy anyone else.
Hope my rambling makes sense to someone like it does to me.
just plain disordered jane
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