Posted by Catgirl on September 21, 2004, at 19:09:08
In reply to Huge mess I created, posted by raindrop on September 20, 2004, at 18:47:12
I agree with everything that's been said already.
I would like to add one thing. Don't let your guilt over taking his financial contributions override the fact that he has verbally and mentally abused you. You are very smart for considering ending the relationship before you marry him. Trust me, it certainly doesn't get any easier after.
Does he admit that he has been abusive to you?
Are you in therapy currently? If you are, you might want to discuss what made you stay with this person for this long under the circumstances. That's what I'm trying to do now, uncover all the issues that have caused me to make bad choices in relationships.
Good luck! Let us know how it turns out.
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