Posted by ron1953 on September 21, 2004, at 16:54:41
In reply to Huge mess I created, posted by raindrop on September 20, 2004, at 18:47:12
It's quite clear to me that you want and need to part ways. My ex felt a similar entitlement about the financial/material stuff and literally discarded ALL of my personal possessions. I feel this was a very dishonorable thing to do. I tried to discuss a fair property settlement but she refused. It was already too late to get my personal possessions and the value of the marital assets and debts didn't justify my hiring a lawyer to fight it out in court.Plus PA is a no-fault state where the judge would have the final say if we couldn't agree beforehand.
If the house is yours, you can have him legally removed. Try to initiate a calm discussion about his departure and the money. Keep in mind that he has no ownership of you because of these gifts/loans. If you can come to an agreement, plan to make it a legally binding instrument. Then there will be no acrimonious lawsuits. If you can't agree, have him evicted and deal with the money problem later. Let him take his personal possessions, change the locks and be prepared to get a restraining order if he harasses you.
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