Posted by alexandra_k on October 11, 2013, at 19:09:09
In reply to Re: bad t, posted by baseball55 on October 10, 2013, at 19:26:38
She is having difficulty.
I think...
I'm supposed to help her, yes.
> Therapists are people too. An hour of listening to someone rant is frustrating to them as it is to anyone. I mean, once in a while, okay. But they want to feel that you are working with them to try and change and learn about yourself. That's what makes their job worthwhile, because it sure doesn't pay a lot.Yeah.
It is our job to look after them.
Or... Perhaps it is more... That sometimes people freak out. If you take a couple minutes to soothe them... Then they can sometimes calm down... And actually rise to the occasion. If you write them off... You miss out on that. Even from a purely selfish perspective... It can pay to take the few minutes to reassure them...
If you can.
Perhaps this is true. I guess I don't know... Because I don't know her very well.
I think ideally I wouldn't need to do this. Ideally... Ones therapist is in therapy oneself which takes care of their need... So they don't need their clients to do this for them. Or perhaps super ideally... Ones therapist can get this from relationships in their outside therapy lives... Or whatever. But... Well... I suspect the ones who function at this level partly get to that level by carefully managing their caseload... And they are perhaps not likely to be found in community mental health. Even if they were... Doing 1 year competency check upon emigration (for example)... You would not have them at their best.
Such is life.
I need to give them something. Yeah.
I've got a mission now: Accmomodation. Then they can say goodbye to me. ANd they reallyr eallyr eally really want to . OH yes, I know tis true.
Dare I say it... My best students were the ones that wrote the best essays. That had good ideas or nice ways of putting things. It is easiest to answer the essay question after reading what everyone else has said then telling your own version stringing together all the 'best' ideas you found in the others work... The ones who... Participated effectively. I always... Thought my job was to coax that out of people and reward it. Trouble was... I wasn't particularly good at rewarding it. I think... People tended to respond the way I did to praise: It paralysed one with fear that one couldn't keep it up.
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