Posted by baseball55 on October 10, 2013, at 19:26:38
In reply to Re: bad t » alexandra_k, posted by Poet on October 10, 2013, at 17:34:07
Sometimes you need to rant and if you can't rant to your therapist, who should we rant to?
Therapists are people too. An hour of listening to someone rant is frustrating to them as it is to anyone. I mean, once in a while, okay. But they want to feel that you are working with them to try and change and learn about yourself. That's what makes their job worthwhile, because it sure doesn't pay a lot.
When I was seeing my p-doc for therapy, I used to ask him how he thought of me and he would say -- you're willing to work very hard.
I guess I wanted him to say -- you're really smart and funny and likable or something. But this is how it worked for him. I was willing to think about myself, to try and change, to take his reactions and suggestions seriously and not explode in anger or be constantly distrustful. This made it gratifying to work with me. That's what therapy is -- work.I understand this from teaching. My favorite students are always those who try their best, who come to me with problems rather than bad-mouth me and complain about their grades. Their job is to work on building their skills and knowledge and mine is to facilitate that work. I think this is exactly how therapists see the relationship.
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