Posted by AMB on March 21, 2013, at 10:37:14
In reply to Re: Transference with psychiatrist, posted by Twinleaf on March 21, 2013, at 8:01:31
> Sometimes, wonderful things and not-so-great things seem to be mixed together. As you described it, you are getting a connected feeling, and growing in your ability to interact comfortably with an attractive man, both of which will help you tremendously in your personal life. It does sound as though he is not too good on boundary issues, but you have demonstrated that you have good judgement, and can make good decisions, in those areas. As long as you can continue to do that when needed, I'd say the positives in this relationship far outweigh the negatives...
I lean toward the same opinion. It's funny how I have interpreted things, as I for some reason see him as having had very strict boundaries and have been afraid to talk to him about my feelings because of this. I was afraid he would be freaked out and terminate me as a patient (I don't have a basis for this fear, he's never said that. It' just a fear). Given that his boundaries are probably looser than I thought, do you think he probably won't be as shocked as I have been fearing? I would not discuss it in hopes that he'll ask me out, not at all. I just think having it out in the open will take the burden off of me, and will put an end to the infatuation. I know no one really knows how he'll react, it's just great to see this from a different perspective. When baseball55, Dinah and Twinleaf all have a similar perspective, then I'd say it's more accurate than mine.
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