Posted by AMB on March 20, 2013, at 23:36:05
In reply to Re: Transference with psychiatrist, posted by baseball55 on March 20, 2013, at 19:41:20
> > > He said "it's like when you have sex on the third date and then they think it's a relationship, You never said it's a relationship, but they believe what they want to believe".
> This and the dating site make me feel like his boundaries are pretty loose and his technique not very well-developed. Transference is painful enough with a skilled therapist. He doesn't sound skilled. Maybe you should look for someone else. I understand it will be painful to leave him, but it won't be as painful as you think. You will recover. It's not like ending an actual romantic relationship. Also, is seeing a male therapist the best thing for you? Or would you be more comfortable with a woman?I do see a woman for therapy primarily (DBT). He insisted I see her as I had started cutting again. So he does not do regular therapy sessions. He is primarily med management and what I would call supportive therapy. I began seeing him when my husband moved out a few years back. You are correct in that he is not terribly skilled in actual therapy, he has been helpful especially with the meds. I have a mood/personality disorder and treatment resistant depression, and he is very skilled in med management and tweaking things to get just the right fit. He is very supportive and patient. Looking back he may have discouraged me from reconciling with my husband a litle too much, and I may put too much weight on his opinion. I think his own divorce experience affected the advice he was giving to me. But being able to sit in the office of a man that I would normally be tongue tied with is a huge improvement for me. That in itself is one of the best things about seeing him- it's at least helped the social phobia and I feel safe. I've always had social phobia with men and tended to let them walk all over me and have trouble connecting emotionally with them. For the first time I felt like I finally had a man in my life, even if only my doctor, who was genuinely concerned abut my feelings and cared about where my life was going. So I guess it was inevitable that these feelings would develop. I am afraid if I leave him, I will stop going all together. It took me 20 years to find a pdoc I connected with after my last one moved...I am dependent on my female therapist too, but not like with him. I wonder if he senses my adoration...he must, right? It probably boosts his ego quite a bit.
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