Posted by emmanuel98 on December 13, 2010, at 21:01:37
In reply to worse before better?, posted by Annabelle Smith on December 13, 2010, at 18:42:37
I went through this awful period in therapy where I just felt so dependent and couldn't imagine life without him. I worried he would get sick or the insurance company would refuse to pay for therapy with a p-doc and I told him this. He said, well things can happen. You're really doing this yourself, you know. All I do is facilitate and bear witness. You could do this with another therapist. I said I didn't want to see another therapist. He said it would be hard, but not as hard as I thought it would be.
I think that's what you need to keep in mind. This will end because of your schooling, but you can pick it up again when you move with another therapist. You just have to find someone who is a good fit for you. Your intense feelings and idealization come from you, not from him. You will feel those feelings with another therapist and will have a longer time to work through them.
As for how to hurry along the process with your current T, I don't know that you can do that, as much as you want to. It's an emotional process. It unfolds differently for everyone and takes time.
Good luck. And remember, you have him until May, which is time to say goodbye and find someone else and process this.
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