Posted by Solstice on December 12, 2010, at 9:31:21
In reply to Re: thoughts and over-attachment/ idealization, posted by emmanuel98 on December 12, 2010, at 1:20:18
> > That's my secret that I would feel so embarrassed to tell him.
> >
> Keeping secrets from your T makes you unhappy and keeps him in the dark. Sharing what embarrasses you forces you to be honest and upfront about your emotions and helps you learn to be more emotionally self-aware. I doubt it would shock him to learn how you feel or make him think you are pathetic. Most T's are well aware that therapy often makes people feel dependent, attached, jealous, etc. Working through these emotions with your T is the whole point of therapy.
Well said.. Emmanuel. It also gives you the opportunity to find out that your therapist can hear your 'secret' and not be appalled, repelled, or destroyed by it. And you won't walk away feeling like the relationship has been ruined. plus.. you might actually walk away feeling safe.. accepted.. understood..Sol.
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