Posted by Solstice on December 11, 2010, at 21:45:45
In reply to Re: thoughts and over-attachment/ idealization, posted by Annabelle Smith on December 11, 2010, at 21:15:05
> so, the jealousy is towards the other clients, but in particular towards the other student clients, who are probably more like me. The more like me they are, the more jealous I will feel. That's my secret that I would feel so embarrassed to tell him.
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> I have always thought to myself that I never want to see another client leave and have to encounter the person in passing. This was especially how I felt at the counseling center-- I didn't want to have to see another student leave a session.
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> Maybe this is something about the desire Pegasus talks about in another post of wanting to have him be a therapist all to mysefl-- wanting his total care and not having to share. I know that is so unreasonable, but I think you right, that it points to deeper attachment issues. I have read some on attachment theory and quite a bit on ORT. I actually understand a lot of this on an intellectual level, but emotionally can't even begin to get through it all.
:-) What you're talking about here is pretty universal in therapy-dom. Some therapists are real sensitive to their clients' need to feel they have them all to theirself - and have separate doors for one client to come into the waiting room, and the one leaving to leave thru a separate door.. with the goal being that they won't run into each other. I think *most* clients want to feel they are the only one tapping into their therapist's therapeutic care.You are NORMAL, darllin.
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