Posted by annierose on November 4, 2010, at 7:04:55
In reply to Re: Wordlessness, posted by Daisym on November 3, 2010, at 23:42:50
Who your mother hated was herself. And who you might feel angry towards is your mother for not protecting you. It is such a huge hurt. And one that you will work on ever so slowly with your t. No wonder you worry about needing people, needing your t, and what that stirs up for them. You came about that honestly. Of course you know intellectually that children really do need their parents, it is so difficult to reconcile emotionally that our mothers did not have the capacity to love and parent and be there for us in the way that was expected of them. They failed us. We didn't fail them.
Recently I e-mailed my t with something I had a hard time telling her in session. Although she responded kindly and thoughtfully, she of course held off on continuing the conversation until we met. But it opened the dialouge ... ouch.
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