Posted by Nadezda on March 13, 2009, at 14:46:10
In reply to Re: Negative transference ) Fleeting butterfly + » seldomseen, posted by wittgensteinz on March 11, 2009, at 12:19:20
Hi, Witti.
Would you say that the really disturbing part of this issue is the exchanges between you and your T? That seems to be what you're saying, and I wonder if perhaps there isn't more to this than you've mentioned. I remember the prior incident with the coldness of your T and how distressed you were by it-- and the lingering effects of it-- and it would seem that the current situation is evoking further distrust-- or fears of some instability with your T.
What arrangement you make with the pdoc seems to me secondary to being able to work this through further with your T-- unless you would find it difficult and possibly disruptive to discuss it with him. I wouldn't want to encourage you to bring it up if you think he would react defensively or become more withdrawn or cold. But at the same time, this situation with him and the pdoc would I think raise doubts and uncertainty for anyone.
Are you feeling more concerned about trust with him, and about his commitment, or loyalty to you?
Nadezda
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