Posted by backseatdriver on February 24, 2009, at 12:57:35
In reply to Re: Is There Anyone Here In Love With Their Therapist? » sassyfrancesca, posted by Phillipa on February 23, 2009, at 23:30:33
Sassy,
I'm going through something a little bit similar. It's not that I want my T for a lover, but that I want him to support me in my creative work. (I am a writer.) For this to happen, he has to support me in my effort to believe in myself -- to believe that I've got something to contribute.
For some reason, I have never had enough of that support. As a result, I wind up doing ghost-writing and editing, providing for others the support and nurturing I can't provide for myself.
To believe that I am "special" enough to ask for, and receive, this kind of support is really hard for me.
I think you may be having a similar conversation with your T, about specialness. It is taking the form of romance, because romance is a very pure instantiation of The Special in our lives. Perhaps the purest.
You are special. It's not a delusion. You really are.
Yours,
BSD
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