Posted by sassyfrancesca on February 23, 2009, at 12:30:26
In reply to Re: Is There Anyone Here In Love With Their Therapist?, posted by Dinah on February 23, 2009, at 11:12:46
Hi, ((Dinah)); Thanks for your response.
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> Have you talked to him about this? About the fact that you're paying him to be with him?I think he knows that...he knows I come in to "play" and sez that "play is therapy"---we listen to music and I just say what I feel like...the only time of the week I get to really relax and feel good at being with someone.
And how you're angry with him, but he's the only man in your life right now? He knows he is the only man in my life......he asked if he is my "surrogate boyfriend." He urges me to find someone; trust me....I've been trying......
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> I can see lots of room for therapeutic interaction, if you're willing to be honest with him. It would require risk, and a lot of hard work, but you might end up with something far more satisfying than what you have now. I recognize of course that there are probably inherent satisfactions in things as they are now.yes, that is true.
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> But I would wish for so much more for you. Thankyou.Things that will only be possible if you're willing to stir what you have now up a bit.
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> If you aren't willing to do that, you aren't. I respect that. I do it myself all the time. But one thing my therapist *has* taught me is to be empowered by my decision to do nothing. It *is* a decision to stay right where I am right now. And it's better for my ultimate happiness if I accept that at this moment the benefits outweigh the disadvantages, and that I am choosing to take this path. It makes me feel less helpless.
I agree with you!Only We really know what is good for us. For now, it works in one sense. If it ever gets overwhelming, or I change my mind, then I will.
Thanks for understanding.
Sassy
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