Posted by sassyfrancesca on February 23, 2009, at 10:53:16
In reply to Re: Is There Anyone Here In Love With Their Therapist? » sassyfrancesca, posted by SLS on February 23, 2009, at 10:35:51
Hi, Scott: Well, I hear what you are saying, but this isn't the Freudian transference/countertransference. Sometimes......feelings are just that.......authentic feelings.
I understand why some people don't understand my (and others) feelings, but they are authentic.
There is a website: AMostHeartbreakingLove for those of us who have personal feelings for a therapist.
transference/countertransference are just fancy words for the feelings which we feel for each other, unless it is the classic (Freudian) transference; in which a t reminds us of someone in our past, and we respond to them subconsciusly in that manner.
Transference/countertransference exists in ALL relationships.
No, he doesn't think he is love with me. He knows my feelings for him. We have discussed it many times.
We were at the American Counceling Convention in hawaii last year, and he was looking for me at the dance. I didn't contact him, even though i wanted to.
I have known for a very long time is shouldn't be saying and doing what he is. I've done a ton of research on the subject.....
I am stuck.....I choose that....for now.
you love....who you love.
P.S. Oh, I am quite sure how we (I) would react outside of therapy.
I don't really need therapy (the church issue was over years ago), I go...to be with him....sometimes I just want to sit and just be....
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