Posted by Kath on January 7, 2009, at 22:48:25
In reply to Re: Hard to eat when I'm upset, posted by fayeroe on January 7, 2009, at 12:40:24
Have talked today about quite a few things with son, including why he does drugs (mainly to cope with feelings & to NOT feel them).
He finally phoned & left a detailed message for boss, including that he had really enjoyed the job & that he was the nicest boss he'd ever had. Son is feeling awful about what he 'did'.
Talked about him getting help, as doing drugs for the rest of his life to NOT feel just wouldn't work.
He's also told his friend that he's interested in working as dishwasher in the restaurant where he works. Thinks that being behind the scenes will be way less stressful for him than dealing directly with the public.
I've also told him that we'll talk details later, but that if he isn't working, he has 2 things that need to be happening - him getting professional help for his underlying problems (some of this is already in place) AND that I need him to be a contributing member in this house. I've outlined some things that I expect him to deal with (ex, keeping the lane shovelled, DH had been doing that) & some other things also.
I think one of the things that had been bothering me the most, was to think of him being here, sleeping all hours, not doing anything at all to help, etc. I feel like I'm taking back some of my 'power'...& I actually feel less depressed now.
Maybe it's that depression being 'anger turned inwards' thing.
I'm still not feeling great, but actually somewhat better.
I still feel like I need support. But I don't feel desparate now.
Thx all.
:-)
Kath
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