Posted by fayeroe on January 5, 2009, at 22:08:02
In reply to It happened :-( » Partlycloudy, posted by Kath on January 5, 2009, at 16:35:51
> You're right PC. I'm going to try to make myself go to an Al-Anon meeting tonight. My friend just phoned & told me of one.
Al-Anon was my lifeline, Kath. I went religiously and finally I got the message of not being able to change someone else..I had to change.
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> My son went out for a smoke break around4:15 & had a sort of melt-down. Didn't have his phone with him; walked a block to pay phone; phoned me; said he couldn't go back inside - could I come & get him.
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> So I did - meanwhile he didn't go back in the restaurant! Jeezus.
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> So I called his boss, said [xxxx] had had a panic attack (that's basically what it was) he tried to walk it off, but it didn't work; he didn't want to come back into the restaurant like that. That he was really upset, because he really likes his job; that I was taking him to the doctor.Try letting [xxxx] make his own phone calls. I know this is very hard and I'm guilty of doing it for my kids. But if we keep doing it, they'll be 70 and we'll be 95 and still making calls for them.
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> His boss was really nice.
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> Now what to say to boss? Son is going to meet his friend & talk to him about it.Let [xxxx] talk to boss. It is his job. Does your son have a sponsor?
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> I don't know.Kath, I can hear the fear and exhaustion in your voice. Please call an Al-Anon member and talk to her/him and if you can, make that meeting.
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> I just don't know.This is one of the hardest things that you'll ever do, but I believe that you can do it.
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> You're right about everything PC.
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> thx so much for your support; I need it.
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> So sorry about your food situation PC.
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> I'll talk more later hun.
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> thx so much
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> Kath{{{{{{Kath}}}}} xoxoxo Pat
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