Posted by Partlycloudy on January 5, 2009, at 16:11:58
In reply to My anxiety ) PartlyCloudy, posted by Kath on January 5, 2009, at 14:39:55
(((((Kath)))))
Oh, sweetie, I wish there was a way I could separate you from your very real concerns for your son. I think it's so much harder having him under your roof - it's all the more Here and Now and he's not able to own his own mistakes and victories (if that makes any sense).
If you're able to get to any Al-Anon groups you might find some peace of mind and ease some of your anxiety. I can just about feel your anticipation of problems that haven't yet happened, remembering past issues, and there's your son, kind of trapped somewhere between his past and uncertain future.
I'm eating again, though having a tenuous relationship with the kitchen! Not really up to cooking. Husband not happy with the various work arounds (frozen packets of food are appalling to his used-to-fresh and healthy mentality), yet his own cooking skills are, well, um... not helpful! So still a challenge. I'm getting my money's worth from my therapist, I can tell you. AND a workout from our insurance plan.
Kath, I hope you find a way to refocus your energies on yourself and your own needs and let your son make his own movements, whether up or down, in his life. So hard to do with him living with you - it's never far from your immediate attention. But if you're not keeping yourself in top emotional shape, then I think (armchair critic and no science involved in this idea at all) the whole house's energy comes down, setting it up for a fall.
What do you think?
with affection,
pc
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