Posted by Yanaawn on December 31, 2008, at 21:35:13
In reply to Isolation, loneliness, and one-sided friendships, posted by Racer on December 23, 2008, at 11:36:08
Dear Racer,
Not to sound overtly cliche, but I can personally identify with what you are experiencing. I have been divorced for 20 months now, and due to that predicament was forced to move in with my supposed friend and his family (and now his fiance). Like yourself I have tried so hard to make connections with 3D people, but it never seems to work out. I always end up being the one initiating things. Even with the people I stay with, if I do not initiate conversation or interaction they walk around oblivious.
Like yourself, I really do not have answers, but rather questions...How does one go about repairing one's social life after years of isolation? (Ten years, in my case.) How does one make friends, when one is past a certain age? (I am 44 years of age.) And how does one go about creating friendships in which others do some of the inviting, too? (If I only knew the answer to this question!)
The sad thing about being lonely and isolated these days is that people in general have forgotten how to be someone's friend; how to look beyond themselves in action and behavior. I live in a household of five people, but I might as well be alone, because that is how it feels. As 2009 approaches I am at my wits end!
Any suggestions?
poster:Yanaawn
thread:870481
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