Posted by Little Soul on December 31, 2008, at 13:18:02
In reply to Re: In the midst of it all » Little Soul, posted by Dinah on December 31, 2008, at 10:58:53
Thanks everyone. Today for some unknown reason (maybe yet another holiday...yeesh) I'm having a hard time. But let me just clarify one thing because in re-reading my initial note it sounds like my therapist is willing to discuss her dating situation in more detail with me and that's not the case. She is willing to discuss my feelings about the situation, but really exchanges very limited-to-no information about her relationship. And even though I want to know what's going on, I think ultimately I'd be uncomfortable with knowing more (maybe, maybe not - I'm pretty torn). Okay, so that helps me sort out T boundaries. Because I agree with you, fayeroe, those boundaries need to be set by the therapist because I have no idea how to set them (i.e. my background).
The abandonment thing is very real for me, thanks seldomseen. In fact, I got a tug in my stomach reading your note. I don't want her to leave me. Another person in the picture is threatening. It was hard enough first knowing that she had other clients, and friends, and her own children and grandchildren. I just feel so sad about the whole thing. Wish I could be objective and look at this with curiousity like you say Dinah. It's hard I have to admit. But, seldomseen, you are really on target with your comments - it feels good to be heard by you, and all of you, for that matter. Already, I feel like I'm being watched out for...loving this board.
LS
P.S. When will this go away???...I want this feeling to go away!
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