Posted by Little Soul on December 30, 2008, at 22:55:08
In reply to Re: In the midst of it all » Little Soul, posted by Dinah on December 30, 2008, at 22:14:37
> I've found that if I try to fight thoughts or feelings they just get stronger. Feelings just are.
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> What does your therapist say? Does she think it's helpful to talk about your feelings? I admit that I found it helpful in my therapy to talk through it, and eventually I did come out on the other side.
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> Does your therapist talk about her dating relationship? Some therapists self disclose a lot more than others, and I think there are valid reasons on both sides of the argument. Even though my therapist is pretty self disclosing, I never even knew he was dating until he told me he was getting married. I suppose he usually self discloses when I notice he's upset, not when he's happy. Do you think her level of self disclosure is helpful to you?
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> Again, welcome to Babble.Thanks for your reply Diana. I notice that my thoughts do get stronger when I try to fight them. It's just so hard to "sit" with them. I usually feel the need to call her on the phone (I have permission to call when I'm in crisis). She always encourages me to talk about my feelings, however I'm conflicted talking about this though...
My therapist is probably middle-of-the-road open when compared to others. I could tell that something had changed and just asked her outright if she was seeing someone. She said yes, and hasn't talked about it since then. So with no further info I find myself wanting to know more - don't understand that! The wierd thing is that I want to know, but when I know it just hurts. Yeesh..this is hard stuff, never been in therapy before this and didn't know about or expect these kind of feelings. I feel trapped by my feelings.
Thanks again for your post!
Little Soul
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