Posted by stellabystarlight on November 1, 2008, at 18:09:31
In reply to very sorry to hear that you are struggling with a, posted by twinleaf on October 30, 2008, at 17:35:39
Hi Twinleaf,
Thank you so much for your kind reply to my post. It's always great to read your enlightening posts, and especially wonderful to interact with you here. Yes, my therapist and I've been going through a very complicated rupture which has been testing both strengths and weaknesses of our relationship in many ways. I've been wanting to write about it, but I don't even know where to begin as our relationship keeps evolving - very rapidly. I'm sorry I'm not being specific, but this rupture has touched on so many wounds...I'm still very confused about everything.
However, I wasn't too confused to know that his counter-transference was basically the culprit for this rupture and I had him credit me a session for the repair, and told him he's also responsible for the long phone calls! It simply came to a point where I couldn't stomach paying for a painful rupture/repair that I didn't cause, and I needed him to take resonsiblity for his part in a tangible way in order for me to maintain my self-respect. Even though the fear of abandonment was hanging over my head like a black cloud the whole time, I was empowered by speaking up for myself.
Maybe this is an ususual exhange between a therapist and a client, but we closed the session with a better understanding of each other, and perhaps him respecting me more. I will definitely post after I get all this sorted out. Thank you, Twinleaf, and I'm glad you're still doing so well.
Stellabystarlight
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