Posted by seldomseen on October 31, 2008, at 4:52:11
In reply to In which I vent about my stupid T, posted by Suedehead on October 30, 2008, at 19:25:16
My therapist told me the he was attracted to me as well. Looking back on it, it drove the therapy and ended up being very productive for me.
But it took a while to get to that place.
I completely understand the "push/pull" that you feel and the "if you feel that way why don't you...." Above all else, it is confusing. Very very confusing.
I think what you must do is talk and talk and talk to him about his disclosure, how it made you feel (both good and bad). Did it frighten you? Because it scared me more than a little bit.
Like Daisy indicated, I also think there was some bending over backwards to re-establish the boundaries. Which, of course, just felt like rejection to me and if that happens to you let him know.
In a recent session he put himself right in the middle of sexual topic I was discussing and on two separate occasions in that session indicated that he thought I was very sexy. (It's not as bad as it seems.) Now I know he is getting geared up to re-establish boundaries and I'm preparing for the rejection. Even though I know it is just a perceived one by this point in therapy.
I'm handling this exactly the wrong way - by letting it fester and not talking, but it's not going to get better until I do.
So please, don't do what I'm doing and talk to your therapist.
Seldom
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