Posted by JayMac on October 6, 2008, at 19:46:58
In reply to Mutual attraction, posted by Suedehead on October 6, 2008, at 18:53:35
Suede,
It sounds like telling him has really made you feel closer to your T. And that is great. It is not uncommon for patients to be attracted to their T, or fall in love with their T. Nor is it uncommon for hetersexual women to have feelings for their female T. Without going too much into transference and countertransference (if you are interested, I would love to tell you more!), I believe, that in 98% of these sorts of cases it is not beneficial for the patient for the therapist to tell the patient that they have feelings for them. In many cases (although not in all), it can create a sexualized dynamic. My belief, along with most of the psychological community, is that this information completely rests on the therapist to use anything that you are feeling for him (i.e. transference) in such a way that adds to your relationship, deepens it, and furthers along your treatment/goals.Your therapist (or anyone's) is obligated to do things that are for YOUR benefit. It may be beneficial for you and/or him to admit that yes, he is attracted to you, but he should NOT be acting upon that and he should use this information (and any information) in such a way to foster your therapuetic alliance.
I am more than happy to elaborate. I can also recommend some great books on the subject! =)
Hugs,
JayMac
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