Posted by Wittgensteinz on October 2, 2008, at 16:58:56
In reply to Do you know where your T....?, posted by JayMac on October 2, 2008, at 16:15:44
Yes, mine runs his practice from his home - so for me, this isn't an issue. It can be awkward at times as he also just has his home phone and sometimes I phone and his wife answers and then I have to ask to be put through to him - or I can hear he has visitors in the background (he doesn't use an answer phone) and then I feel really guilty for disturbing him.
I can imagine this is a big issue for you - I can see why you are concerned about worrying your T. It's a tricky one but it's something that has come up, and so it's best to try and talk about it with her if you can. What seems to be important is your idealisation of her in contrast with the reality that she is a real person, living not far away and leading her own life. I don't think your curiosity about her real life, including her home, is odd or unusual - in fact isn't it to be expected?
As for my Pdoc. I have just started seeing a new Pdoc. I see him in a private office but he gave me his home address so I could send copies of my notes on to him. I was curious and looked up the address on google earth (actually it's very close to the private office but I have no desire to go by his house). He lives in the nicest part of town - his house must be in excess of 2 million dollars (ok houses are expensive in the Netherlands and Pdocs earn well but still!).
I like going to my T's home to see him - it feels personal and homely (the therapy room is adjoined to his house but shares the same entrance). I always feel comfortable going there. My former Pdoc also had his practice at home but I didn't like that arrangement - he sometimes was rather too underdressed (i.e. one occasion was wearing what looked like jogging clothes). It was also a big mess at his place (even though I only saw the waiting room and office). Plus he had an old schnauzer that wandered around so the place smelled of dog. The new Pdoc dresses for work, his office is fresh and tidy (probably interior designed) - without overly intrusive things from his personal life - I rather like that.
Sorry this was rather long and rambling!
Witti
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