Posted by sassyfrancesca on September 17, 2008, at 15:04:33
In reply to Re: T Touching Himself, posted by JayMac on September 17, 2008, at 14:17:44
> Hi Sassy,
Hi, ((JayMac)))): You are a sweetie, and so right!
> I'm really glad you made this post. I think it is brave of you to make us aware of the severity of the problem. Thankyou......if I told you all of the things he has said and done, you would be shocked; that is why I don't mention them!Your T is irresponsible, unethical, and NOT WORTHY OF YOUR TRUST. He is most definitely undeserving of your money as well. Please don't take this post harshly. I don't at all ((JayMac))).
Your T's behavior is not about what you are or are not doing, it's about him! You are NOT responsible for how HE reacts.
Yes, I know that, he CHOOSES his behavior.
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> Fortunately, you have the power to act on this. You have the power to make things different. While I understand you want to confront him, I don't know if that would change the dynamics between you two. Has it changed things in the past? In my opinion, I think you need to distance yourself from your current T, and immediately have a new T in place so you can work this out.I know.
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> Your T's behavior is seriously damaging!! i can't tell you how many times I have confronted him in the past, when he said or did something that was painful. I am not shy to speak up.Whether or not you like it, your T's motives are not in YOUR best interest. None of this is not your fault!! No one deserves this type of treatment! No one!
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> Are you ready to make a change? When will his behavior be enough for you to get out? You are worth it.Well, in a few months, I will have to tell him I cannot see him anymore. I know I should have that conversation now, but I am overwhelmed.
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> Many, many hugs to you! Take good care!
> JayMacMany, many hugs to you, too.......sweetie!
Love, Alice
poster:sassyfrancesca
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