Posted by lemonaide on September 17, 2008, at 12:17:50
In reply to Re: T Touching Himself » Wittgensteinz, posted by sassyfrancesca on September 17, 2008, at 10:23:41
Hey Sassy,
It is clear that he is attracted to you, you know that, I am wondering why you continue to post what he does? You know what he is doing it wrong, I am just wondering do you need validation on what he is doing is wrong or validation that he cares for you?
One thing I learned the hard way about my old T, is that I do really want to be with a guy who goes against ethical rules of his career and moral rules in regards to his marriage. I think any therapist who does this is nothing but a creep and a slimeball. They are using their position to take advantage of those who come to them, who trust them to help them. It reminds me of a parent child molester who uses their own child to satisfy their own needs. A child of corse trust a parent and thinks the abuse is love from the parent because they know no other love.
Sassy, you are single, attractive, and interesting, you could get a much better man than the one you say you are in love with. Something I want to ask you, is why don't you feel you deserve better? The one guy you mentioned you were married to was abusive, so I wonder have you ever experienced real love that wasn't abusive or against the rules?
One thing for me that has helped me break those emotional chains is distance from my old T and to get another T to help me break those chains of obsessive thoughts about them. I absolutely hate what this guy is doing to you, you really need help to get a objective view of what is going on. You may even find your feelings of being in love is something else.
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