Posted by sassyfrancesca on September 18, 2008, at 7:36:27
In reply to Re: T Touching Himself/sassy, posted by rskontos on September 17, 2008, at 17:29:22
> Sassy,
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(((rsk))): You are very dear and ALL of your assessments about what is transpiring with my t are absolutely....dead on!> I have read your assessments and questions about your t for awhile now. I haven't responded much because I don't any experience with transference so I did not feel qualified to give much of an answer. However a pattern seems to be emerging with respect to your T. Remember not too long when you were presenting or going to the APA Hawaii convention and he claimed he never led you on. And how upset you were?
Yes, he told me he saw me 5 times at the convention, and was looking for me at the dance; sheesh....he wouldn't SPEAK to me (ethics), but he WOULD have danced with me if he found me? Boy is that twisted!?
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> IMHO, he is playing a cat and mouse game with you. He baits and retracts with this flirtatious game and when you sometimes ask him directly he denies it.Yes, I call it come here go away......
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> He is dangerous and this is a dangerous game. You have posted in anguish about your situation.Anguish is the perfect word for how I feel.
It just doesn't seem healthy to me. Now I am no expert. But I feel he has hurt you tremendously and the game he is playing is so potentially damaging to you. You are worthy of so much more. He has violated his professional ethics yet will not own up to it. He toys with your affections and no where do I see how it is therapuetic only seems to be something to booster his own ego.
i have said that many times.....his ego.
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> Please please please take care of yourself in this ploy of his for that is what I feel it is and you are at risk.
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> I care about the damage he has done and the damage he can do in the future or may be doing as we speak.
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> You deserve a T that treats you safely not like this.
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> And you deserve peace from all you have already gone through. It seems to me he is further exposing you to trauma.
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> Take care my friend.Thank YOU my friend....for your caring, hepful words.
Hugs, Sassy
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> rsk
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