Posted by lucie lu on September 3, 2008, at 9:48:59
In reply to Re: invisibility, posted by caraher on September 2, 2008, at 18:03:49
> Interesting business about invisibility - I'd never heard of that as a thing children of alcoholics become sensitive to. (That's scarcely surprising; I've actually avoided looking into children-of-alcholics issues, I guess because although my dad was alcoholic I never had any feeling that it was a big deal growing up.)
Although there was, inevitably, some other types of abuse (how often do great things happen to kids from seriously dysfunctional homes, anyway?) this was the neglectful, abandoning, inconsistent, isolating, developmentally deficient, lack of trust etc model of how living in alcoholic families can damage kids.
> One thing I know I'm sensitive to is the sense that nobody would notice if I weren't around. I don't think I seek the spotlight at all - I'm actually kind of reclusive - yet I do definitely want people to notice if I'm not there. If I disappeared, would anyone notice? I tend to take a "no" or "not much" answer as evidence for worthlessness...
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I'm actually more introverted too than outgoing. I lived mostly inside my head, and it was a major struggle to rejoin the human race and finally see myself as one (?) I think that sense or fear of disconnection may be what you're referring to. Definitely a "if a tree falls" sort of dilemma and an aspect of the invisibility thing. This fear/need is probably on some level hard-wired into all of us. For most social species, being off by yourself tends to get your eaten by something large and extremely toothy :)> yet sometimes I *do* want to be invisible... but I guess that happens to everyone in a situation they'd rather not be in!
Yes - it would be nice to do at will!
Cara, thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Lucie
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