Posted by Racer on August 27, 2008, at 17:56:35
In reply to Re: Need to be taken seriously » Annierose, posted by wishingstar on August 26, 2008, at 19:13:55
> I verbalize what I'm feeling and what I think is going on, and get told I'm wrong. For instance, just yesterday I tried to explain to T, who is frustrated at my recent weight loss (related to anorexia), that it's not as easy as going out and eating a pizza and gaining the weight back. She informed me that I'm wrong and it IS that easy. Good to know.
Yeah, that is good to know.
And you know what? She's right -- gaining the weight is exactly as simple as eating.
EATING is the complex part...
I'm always inclined to look for the places where it sounds as though there's a miscommunication, that this therapist might be doing a better job overall than what's coming across here, etc -- and I have read this thread very carefully for any sign of that, just because of my own bias. (Which comes from my "if it feels as though I should quit, it's likely a sign that I need to stay" experiences, you know? It's nothing suspicious, you know?)
What I'm reading in your posts, though, is very different. What I'm reading in just this one incident is that you've got a therapist who is not a good fit for you right now. Now, that may just be my interpretation, my reading, and I could be wrong, but her failure to validate your concern doesn't seem like a good fit. Mind you, I have no idea what the context is, etc, but I know how I'd feel if I heard that.
If you have a history of anorexia, or an active eating disorder, it might be in your best interest to find someone with experience/training in EDs. It really does make a difference.
And part of my criteria in all this is simple: are your concerns validated before you're redirected? Is there any sign that the words which came out of your mouth were heard?
Best luck, and I hope that helped.
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