Posted by rskontos on May 21, 2008, at 17:01:50
In reply to Re: Is it awful of me? » Daisym, posted by Dinah on May 21, 2008, at 10:41:10
Dinah, my philosophy on improving ourselves is that we can only go so far. Because we are human we cannot fix everything that is wrong with ourselves, it just aint gonna happen no matter how many self-improvement books you read or courses you take or how hard you try because we are human. that is my take on it. I try but I don't obsess. Maybe that is why I am thinking I won't get better in therapy. Anyway, I believe there is a certain ineptness in our ability to improve all our faults. And that is that. Just my thoughts. It is why we know we should do stuff but we don't. We just can't be great at all facets of life so how can we correct all our faults either. I think personally if you believe that you are hating your face and your body yet you love yourself I believe you are doing fine by me. Personally I hate that I have gained some weight lately and I can't lose it easily like I usually can. It is driving me crazy.
Now not being socially great in my head doesn't bother me. I have an inner that comes out and plays nice with people. I don't always like it but she comes across as a wonderfully socially adept person and everyone likes her but me. That bothers me, but not that I the real me isn't like that. I prefer to be alone and I am ok with it. It bothers others i think me.
I see that probably at the root of the money thing is that you might wish he, your T, would say that he would like you with or without the money? Maybe then you would feel more valued by him? Is that part of it.
I think we all have behavior with money we are ashamed of. I certainly do. I still feel like your marking the ticker was about him than the money. But I am probably wrong. I often am.
rsk
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