Posted by Dinah on April 17, 2008, at 15:06:48
In reply to Re: Confused and Hurt (possible trigger)~LONG~, posted by LadyBug on April 17, 2008, at 10:26:29
You've known her so long, and she's helped you through so much. Didn't she go to your home when you had surgery? I don't think my therapist would do that. (Or maybe I'm thinking of someone else?)
I'd feel so angry now I'd want to leave the city and not leave a forwarding address. I've been that angry before at my therapist.
Maybe this can't be worked out. And I know that you don't have a history of ending relationships too quickly without working on them first. You know best how long this has been going on, and how much you've tried to explore her reaction with her.
If you think there's still hope. If you think there is still a relationship to fight for, and to try to communicate openly and nondefensively on both sides, then if it were me I'd fight to relationship as long as possible.
Whether she acted this way for reasons of her own, or whether she thinks she has good reason, people screw up. And not just client people, but therapist people too.
I guess there are times when good relationships go bad. Friendships and marriages and therapy too. When for no discernible reason something important changes, and the relationship is no longer a healthy one.
If this is one of those times, I hope you're able to remember her fondly for all the wonderful things she's been to you, instead of letting the ending color all of the relationship.
Mind you, I'm not sure I could do that. Not for years anyway. :(
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