Posted by sunnydays on April 17, 2008, at 0:01:24
In reply to Re: Confused and Hurt (possible trigger)~LONG~, posted by LadyBug on April 16, 2008, at 23:29:41
((((LadyBug))))
I'm so sorry that happened. I had sort of a similar thing with my T setting up stricter boundaries for me in regards to emailing lately. His point was that letting out all of the feelings in between sessions makes it harder for the sessions to be intense. But it sounds like that's not the case for you.
I would hope that you worked so long with her that you could see the value in working through a conflict like this with someone. But I totally understand your feelings, because I would be devastated if my T said that. It sounds like your T may have recently rethought her boundaries - perhaps it's with all her clients and not personal, not about you. It might just be that it's intruding into her personal life too much... but that's not about *you* that's about her needs.
But I agree it shouldn't be so abrupt like that... more gradual might have been a better approach, like setting a limit on the number of voicemails, or her not responding to them, just letting you get them out. But I know it hurts like hell to come up against that therapeutic wall of boundaries they have.
I'm so sorry this happened. Hang in there. I hope you can work through it with her. But I know it hurts right now. So try not to worry about that, try to just be gentle with yourself, rest, and get some distance before you decide what to do.
((((LadyBug)))) I'm so sorry.
sunnydays
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