Posted by BlueBalloon on April 13, 2008, at 9:58:57
In reply to change.... maybe good, maybe not, posted by sunnydays on April 12, 2008, at 17:18:55
> So this morning my T and I talked about the panicked e-mailing of the past couple weeks where I've been emailing him multiple times a day some days just because I'm anxious. And he said that he wants me to only e-mail him at most twice a week from now on. I immediately looked down and he said, "Don't go where you're going right now, try to keep your head up, that's it, listen to me, I'm telling you the truth, this is not a punishment, you're not in trouble, you didn't do anything wrong, it's just a change in quantity. I've been thinking for a while about this, it's not something I just came up with out of the blue, and I've been watching you and waiting until I thought you were ready. >
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> I keep getting scared that since he thinks I'm ready for this that he's trying to get me ready to leave.****How would you draw this conclusion? You said yourself in the paragraph above that you email him multiple times a day. Don't you think that's a bit much? (If you really be honest with yourself and look deep inside?) I remember one post where you said (recently) that you emailed him 9 times one day! I also remember several times when you get upset/angry and say you aren't going to email him anymore... and that lasts about an hour. Really, for boundry and structure, he needs to put his foot down a bit and I think that it's good that he did. Don't get me wrong, I email my therapist also, but she's never put a number on it... I've also never abused it. I think you will find that if you don't run to email him at the slightest sign of anxiety or discomfort, you will find that you really can get through much more than you think you can. Besides, needing our therapists is one thing, but do you really want to be emailing him multiple times a day? 9 times a day? You don't think that's a bit much?
I hope this new arrangement works out for you.
Blue
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