Posted by stellabystarlight on April 6, 2008, at 21:34:40
In reply to Re: Hi, I'm new here...and confused about my therapist, posted by seldomseen on April 6, 2008, at 20:09:59
Hi Seldom,
Thank you for your kind reply.
I don't know about his statement "losing you would put me in a deep state of depression and I care about you and just can't bare losing you" being close to malpractice since I don't understand or agree with all these rules and boundaries. However, I also thought that he was
being selfish and making me feel responsible for his feelings when I'm the one that's hurting.Yes, it is hard. On one hand, he does make me feel like he cares about me by what he says sometimes and bending his rules. He can be very warm and loving with his words, and the way he looks at me. On the other hand, my gut is telling me that this is all just heading down a very painful road for me. I'm a full blown love-addict(he doesn't know this about me yet, he just sees me as a very loving person), and it's going to be impossible to end it unless I fall in love someone else.
My gut also says that he is very drawn to me because we are EMOTIONALLY very compatible, and he is not getting his emotional needs met by his wife. He senses that I'm able to meet his needs because we're so much alike. When he got jealous over my teacher and teared up, he quietly said to himself "I don't have a say in this because I'm not able to give you what you want."
I didn't acknowledge it, but he was visibly very broken up over it. I really do belive he's developed deep feelings for me. But...I just don't see how someone like him(a boyscout type) would ever leave everything in his life to be with me. I know I would have a hard time leaving my life even though I'm unhappily married.
I do think he enjoys my attention and has said that he finds me facinating and stimulating. Nice...but 1 hour a week love affair? That I pay for? So painfully frustrating.
I have a lot of thinking to do. I'm just so glad that I found this site. Your words are very, very comforting to me. Thank you and take care.
Stellabystarlight
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